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Why are we so afraid of our tears? Why are we afraid to cry alone or when with others? What,in is, says tears are a negative thing? Do tears indicate weakness? Do we fear falling all apart if we let go and let them flow?
Here is my experience with tears.
Last week, my sister said some heart hurting things. Yes, I knew it was not about me, what she was saying to me, yet I felt them on my own level. And she was, while deep in her own doo-doo, sending out a rejection message to me. She has been for a while yet I see it comes from within herslef and her own turmoil. Again, not about me.
Tears, oh yes. I went to my car and the sweetest (well I didnt taste them) tears rolled down my cheeks and off my jaw and ripped on my blouse. It was the best feeling in the midst of what had happened. As my tears rolled or slid or whatever tears do, my spirit was being set free of her pain, the pain she sent to me. I felt open and dumping and cleansed.
Tears release, aside from the water and eye washing, pain endorphins into our system. Well that may be just the act of crying that does that and the tears are the end product.
Tears express what we may not be able to put into words and ease our suffering. Tears show our willingness to experience and feel our sadness. Our whole body cooperates in a unified outpouring of our sadness. In reality, we are not "falling all apart" nor "losing it"rather we are coming all together as one, honoring this event with our tears, the body "spill holes" of our feelings. Once outside of ourselves, they are OUT and thus the healing.
Tears are beautiful. Will my tears be welcomed and enbraced by another or will it create an uncomfortableness in another. Will someone reach out in comfort or scorn as if it is shameful?
No matter. I want to wear my tears and not brush them away in embarrassment nor hide them for fear I appear weak. It is the strong and courageous who let them fall, openly and freely, not caring where they may land. (I have yet to see anyone actually drown in their own tears or anyone elses for that matter).
I say,let them cry, cry when the spirit moves you, as there is nothing more beautiful than crying. Afterwards,ones face is more beautful for having been washed of it all and a sense of inner peace and calm settles there.
As Hootie says in his song "Let Her Cry!" Here's to tears and letting them fall, roll, slide or whaterever they do! I highly recommend them!
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